The Cuckold Massage

12Increasingly couples, same sex and opposite sex, are exploring sensual massage. Most are looking to enjoy a massage with their partner and arrange for two masseurs to give them massage simultaneously.

As well as simply enjoying a sensual massage with their partner but under the hands of another person some couples will use use the sensual massage scenario as a chance to explore their sexuality. For example, a man and women who want to experience intimate touch from someone of the same sex but want it to take place in a controlled safe space and with their partner present may select a combination of a male and female masseur. The male masseur will begin on the female and the female masseur on the male but during the massage the masseurs may swop “receivers” several times thus allowing the couple to explore same sex touch and intimacy. Or the gay couple who want to explore touch from a female but again in a place where they can feel they do not need to reciprocate or perform.

Another experience for couples to explore that seems to becoming increasingly popular, particular with the heterosexual couples, is the Cockold Massage.

The Cuckold Massage can be enjoyed by both opposite sex couples or same sex though it appears to be more popular with heterosexual couples, particularly where the man is not even bi or bi curious but heterosexual and finds watching his wife being touched and aroused by another man during a massage, a real turn on.

To be Cuckold historically referred to a husband with an adulterous wife and is still often used with this meaning. In evolutionary biology, the term cuckold is also applied to males who are unwittingly investing parental effort in offspring that are not genetically their own. Since the 1990s, the term has also been widely used to refer to a sexual fetish in which the fetishist is stimulated by their committed partner choosing to have sex with someone else.

Historically, the term was generally considered to be a great insult, and leveling an accusation that a husband had raised another man’s child (thus implying that he had been a cuckold) was deemed a provocation that demanded a fight to the death.

Psychology regards cuckold fetishism as a variant of masochism, the cuckold deriving pleasure from being humiliated. In Freudian analysis, cuckold fetishism is the eroticisation of the fears of infidelity and of failure in the man’s competition for procreation and the affection of females.

Biologist Robin Baker who wrote “Sperm Wars”  speculated that the excitement and stimulation of the cuckolding fetish emerges from the biology of sexuality and the effects of sexual arousal on the brain. According to one of his theories, Baker believes that when a man thinks that his female mate may have been sexual with another man, the man is prompted by biological urges to copulate with the female in an effort to “compete” with the other man’s sperm. 

Another Theory put forward is by Sex Mentor Colin Richards of Massage 33. He says ” Increasingly I am seeing couples for sensual massage where the male partner wants to sit and watch as his girlfriend or wife receives the sensual massage in front of him.” Colin goes on to describe ” As the massage progresses that male partner will often undress and begin to arouse himself and the ore aroused his partner becomes during the massage the more turned on he becomes”. Colin comments that as well as a possible masochistic motivation he believes that the pleasure derived from seeing his partner with another man is also derived from the sharing of someone of his that when given to the other male gives the cuckodled male a sense of approval and acceptance with the other ( possibly more dominant) male.

” A bit like the clever but not naturally sporty kid in the playground who wants to be included in the “Cool Kids” gang but only gets accepted when he has something of value to offer (sweets, toys etc ) so the cuckolded man offers his female parter to the fit, rich or well connected man so that he can by proxy benefit from the relationship between.

Although the cuckold massage seems to be more popular with heterosexual couples Colin says that he is also seeing gay and lesbian couples for appointments, where one watches the other. Cuckolding does not seem to be a solely male/female scenario but am seeing it also in gay relationships where I have given a sensual massage to the younger male, while the older male watches.

Colin says ” the fetish of the Cuckold fascinates and I am very interested to hear from any man or women for the matter who finds themselves getting turned on by the thought of watching their partner being erotically massage without getting involved themselves.

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